I’ve been annoyed all day by the concept of “National Coming Out Day” and I couldn’t put into words why it bothers me… Thanks to a twitter conversation with the clever and lovely @Neil_McNeil, I’ve got it.
People come out in their own time, in their own ways.
Coming out isn’t easy. To cheer “Come out, come out, wherever you are!” is a slap to those in situations where they can’t come out.
To assume it just takes bravery to come out is false. It takes financial security, housing security, and civic safety.
Every day, LGBT youth are disowned and left homeless because they’re queer.
Every day, LGBT people are victimized because of who they are.
Every day, LGBT people are fired from their jobs and evicted from their apartments for simply being gay.
There are so many reasons why someone wouldn’t come out.
I wish we treated National Coming Out Dayas an awareness day, where we could educate others about the rights denied to LGBT people and how far we have to go. It’s scary enough to come out. Don’t drag people out of the closet… because it needs to happen in their own time, in their own way.